Ask PENNY: Just Keep Swimming


Dear PENNY, I met a guy who was basically Mr. Perfect. He seemed really into me and we started texting and hanging out. We'd spend entire days together, having fun but then he'd disappear. A week or two later, he'd pop back up again. And it would start all over. I really like him and I want more but I don't know how to talk to him about this. What should I say?

Dear Lovely,

You don't need to talk to him about this. You don't need to talk to him ever again. He has no intention of dating you seriously. He's what we call a "fisherman" - dangling the hook, hoping to hook someone and keep them waiting on the line for whenever he feels like enjoying their company. Without a doubt, as soon as you get wise to his game and stop communicating with him, he'll start blowing up your phone, asking to hang out. And that's the game. The good news is, you don't have to play. No matter how appealing this jerk may seem, he's still a jerk. Because a good guy won't ever string you along. So block his number right now - that way you won't be tempted to answer his (eventual) texts and calls, and decide right now that you deserve to be treated with respect. That way, the next time you encounter a hook, you'll just keep swimming.